Get as much as you can in him here and then just feed him the rest of whatever he'll eat within the next 20 minutes or so, so that the time frame is in place at least, even if he isn't sitting at the table. We try to get him to eat lunch in it but usually he eats it ''on the run'' while playing outside, in the park, or sometimes even in the living room. It can be converted from a high chair to a toddler’s chair, but can also be used as a regular chair for any age. Our 27 month old son has always been an active, busy, energetic boy. I sit my 2 year old down at the table with us in a chair like ours so she feels like a big girl. Good luck!! Our problems were compounded by the fact that she was very low on the growth chart (1%), labelled ''failure to thrive'' (despite being ahead on all physical and cognitive scales) and so we were pretty much ordered to get food in her however we could. so it's not a pain. If the food is out on the counter or a table, then as soon as the toddler is placed in the high chair, the toddler will instantly ask someone to get them down so they can go grab the food...and if a toddler asks for anything, it completely screws up your queue of actions, even if you have autonomy off. Most times we would put some food on a small table and let him come by and snack as he played. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. I think 15 months is too young to punish this behavior, especially by denying food. Can you remove the tray and move the chair up to the table or buy a booster seat and let your toddler sit at the table. We never had a high chair anyway, just a booster. Any tips on what we can do to resolve/avoid some of this chaos and get back to our normal, not-screamy suppers? relax about meal confinement. So far (just two nights right now), we have told her that if she doesn't sit in the high chair, she won't get dinner. My son would not sit at the table and would attempt to make his way out of the kitchen altogether. And you can probably find one on Freecycle or Craigslist. They include safety straps to ensure your that chair won’t slide forward and act as a standard high chair would. Page 2 8:00 am and 4:30 pm Pacific Standard Time or visit our website at www.babytrend.com. He wants to sit in an adult dining chair like his older 4yr old. A 16-month old friend of ours refused to eat any way other than standing. We actually changed our directions to our nanny to not feed them lunch at the park or snacks when they're out and about to help get our friend's child better on track for eating full meals. That way he feels like he is sitting at the table like a big boy, rather than off in the corner in his high chair. Also, we set up a booster chair for him, which he took to very well. Her basic rule is parents are in charge of what, when and where the kid eats (making sure at least one item on the table is something the child likes), and the kid is in charge of whether and how much to eat. My youngest has almost completely outgrown the grazing phase. I started out with your philosophy, but quickly realized that it was not working for us. Finally, do you think your son gets enough sleep? One thing was he was entering a clingy phase, which just happens throughout their young life. I was just coming here to recommend the same thing. Many kids this age won't sit still. Your post is not shocking at all! You can read more at http://www.ellynsatter.com/. However, we gave in on the lap when he wanted it, and he just grew out of it eventually. Being rigid about most things with toddlers is likely to create frustration and upset rather than a more compliant child. or a thick sturdy cushion. Parents voted these high chairs the best of 2020. The battles were so annoying. My little one will sit in his highchair, eating at home or out for about 30 minutes. Hi My 19 month old little boy will not sit in his highchair which makes me resort to feeding him on my lap in front of the tv!! Not sure how you feel about having your son play while he sits at the dinner table with you, but hopefully he will start playing less and eating more as time goes by. Space saver: Baby Jogger City Bistro High Chair. Also, on the advice of a dietician we tried to add fat/calories to every meal. Maybe this strategy will work for you. He won't sit in the high chair, he crawls around the booth. Once you leave the table to go play/wander, your food goes away. At 18 months many are so much more into being mobile and exploring that food time is just too boring. Once our children started standing up in their highchair, we retired it, rather than fight them. It's more important that your kid eat and that mealtime not be associated with stress than having him stay confined in the seat. However my son, who is 18 mths now, does NOT do well in a booster seat. She has been cutting a tooth, but they haven’t really affected her like this in the past. At first he spent more time playing than eating but that is definitely changing and its so much easier not to fight over every bite. However, rest assured that our affiliate relationships do not guide our product recommendations, at all. Good luck! For more tips, go to WhatToExpect.com. Instead, try to make it mandatory for him to sit on the high chair while eating. They can sit in a chair without the worry of falling a few feet to the ground. We were lucky that he never figured out the buckles though, you've got me on that one. He also does better in his high chair and sitting down with our son for meals. Spoon feeding mama, Our daughter, who is almost 3 years old, was like your son. Getting a squirmy toddler to sit at the table and eat a meal can be a huge challenge. They do not want to sit in their booster or eat from their own plate. The key to him eating super well is for him to be otherwise engaged and active. She gets in some bites, sitting in her spot, or kind of on the go. I have looked through the Smackdown questions but I can’t find one related to this phase we seem to be in the middle of with our 17-month old daughter (only child). Expensive but very worth it, as it looks like furniture and grows with a kid. I say drop the power struggle. When this is the case, they start to wiggle and slide off their chair. Since it is just an age thing and he won't be eating like this at 8 years old, I lean towards your husband's laid back approach of feeding him where and when you can. One book that really helped me (and I was very emotional about this issue at the time) was ''Child of Mine'' by Ellen Satter. It sounds a bit harsh to me. We adopted this idea from daycare, where state law prohibits kids from walking around with food due to the chocking risks. And don't worry, they do settle down. '', I know he's hungry (and as a toddler he already eats next to nothing), so it's frustrating! The one place she sits still briefly, is on a little chair we have on the deck where we have a small end table that's just her size. That’s literally the ONLY thing we have changed in her recent dining experience. My philosophy has been to try to encourage but not to force compliance, except for a few mandatory things like the carseat where compliance is the only safe way. I know several babies who stopped wanting to use the high chair at around the same age. He is confined to a chair or booster, which isn't a natural state for a toddler. One toddler I struggled with at meal-time became a champion eater when we stopped offering juice/milk an hour or so before lunch and dinner. But he’s developed an annoying little habit of refusing to sit in his high chair to eat. Rest assured, however, that those babies are a bit unusual. An unbending, absolute No getting up with food rule must accompany this approach. He'll sit in his chair at the table and eat maybe 1-3 bites then he's off running and says he's not hungry. Over time my daughter has adapted to eating at the table, my biggest change was to not chase her around with food, but let food happen at the table at distinct and discreet times, and over time she adapted to that. Sign up for the web’s most entertaining (while informative) weekly newsletter on your pregnancy! You may want to borrow one from a friend and see whether your daughter takes to it. They can get up from the table, but the food stays there. I've noticed that if I give him ''star turkey'' or a ''heart sandwich'' (things shaped with cookie cutters), he's more likely to eat them then if I just give them plain. Please do not return to the store as once it is returned it cannot be resold and … With the first kid we died on our sword over not doing it and eventually relented. The stress level has gone way down. We thought it was another phase and so we began to feed him while we read, played and occassionally while he was in the tub. But their tiredness/hunger manages the problem naturally. Enter Expected Due Date. Could he be overtired as is sometimes the case with very active children and adults? 2) If she’s resistant to sit in/on anything other than a “regular” grown-up chair, you can try a Kaboost under-chair booster. Your husband is not ''training'' your son to be a manipulative little brat who is going to expect to be fed whenever and wherever he wants. Now we don’t care. This is a common problem and it creates unhappy meal times. When your toddler is big enough to sit on a regular chair, the legs of the high chair can separate from the seat, and the seat can be placed on the chair to be used as a booster seat. It’s heavy enough that they can’t really push away from the table, but it’s more of a “real chair” look and gets them up to the right height. They will totally sit in my lap and eat the same food off of my plate. Our daughter did this at 16-17 months old. I’ve been a huge fan of your common-sense “good enough” parenting advice since I found your Weekly Pregnancy Calendar. We do often read to her (if only one parent is present) Recently we have worked on including her in dinner conversation- if my husband and I are talking alone, she usually wants to leave the meal. We ended up feeding her "on the run" too (pretty much chasing her around and putting food in her mouth) and did so until recently because it was the easiest way for us to feel like she was getting enough nutrition. My mom keeps her while we work and she has been putting up a little more fight than usual there, too (although it is characteristic for her to behave much better for my mom than for me… we like to push the limits around here!). bdbelladonna responded: If your child doesn't like the highchair or traditional style booster seats try the Ka-boost if he will sit properly by him self on a grown up chair. Lots of young toddlers reject the high chair at some point — it cramps their newfound independence, makes them feel different/distant from parents or siblings, or they’ve correctly identified it as a “baby” thing and I NOT A BABY. You could consider the type of highchair which attaches to the table itself. Our solution was to get rid of the high chair. If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to amyadvice[at]gmail[dot]com. I know this will sound shocking, but my 18-month old son won't sit still for meals. Yeah, we definitely went through a phase of HATING the high chair and we didn’t have a booster. Your child's behavior is appropriate for his age. For some babies/toddlers, removing the tray or lowering the seat so they can eat off the table “like mom or dad” is enough. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. Hi , My 1 1/2yr old won't sit in his high chair to eat. When a toddler won’t sit still in a high chair at a restaurant, you as the parent must teach them proper restaurant behavior. Anything to get her able to eat comfortably off the table while in a chair that does not contain YOUR lap/butt. To the mother of the toddler who won't sit in her highchair: We had the same problem with our son at about the same age. -Best wishes! When she's a bit older, I think it will be more fun to have family meals all together - but (I think) that should be enjoyable for all, not something I am authoritatively requiring of my daughter. Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty. That is also okay, if slightly terrifying in theory. I don't believe in it. My philosophy is that I am responsible for providing decent food for my child to grow, and I can work with her on how/when she gets the food into her body. We had screaming with the high chair for a bit and refusal to go in it. Try to hang on to what is most important to you about mealtime in the meantime. If we let him feed himself, he wouldn't eat enough. Sitting at one is something grown ups do. Has erratic feeding habits'' Andi, I do not think your experience is shocking, I think it is pretty common. He enthusiastically comes to the table for all meals now and eats until he is done. She just doesn’t want to be confined while she eats. We're all delighted--the booster chair is a lot easier to clean. But recently I found a solution. If you refuse to eat in your chair, it’s ok, you won’t eat! The TAG F301 Toddler Chair is a USA made with smooth and rounded corners and edges. So find a charater that your child likes and find a mat, it worked wonders. As my toddlers grew older, the rules changed. S, Agree with Traci about the Keekaroo. We just have on of the cheaper plastic IKEA junior chairs and our four year old still uses it and it’s awesome. he sat at the table. Our kids eat from a small table. I held my toddler during dinners and fed him from my plate many times, and now he is back in the high chair, happily, enjoying feeding himself with his own fork. We had one that included a strap and a tray, but you might want to consider a simpler, strap-free model like this one, or even this. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama... Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. I JUST SCREAM MY FOOL HEAD OFF LIKE ONE. Hi, you don't say whether you let your son play at the dinner table. He absolutely hates being strapped in anywhere – car seat, pram, high chair. But as you learned, sometimes that trick isn’t enough. He feels a bit pushed around when his play is interrupted and he is lifted into place. However my son, who is 18 mths now, does NOT do well in a booster seat. So yeah. 2 Read aloud to your child. I also remember at age 2 my daughter preferred to eat sitting on my lap, so we did that for a few months, and then phased back into her own chair. […] Read the full article here: When Your Toddler Say No More High Chair! That does not appear to be the case. From that I realized that we primarily had a behavior issue that was leading to a nutrition issue. Should we put him back into a high chair so the tray will keep him confined? It’s capable of holding up to 250 lbs, but you would need a very narrow behind to fit in it. There is no other distraction (no TV, no computer, no cell phone) allowed at the dinner table. The other When we stick to this guideline, our three year old eats really well. For example, the kiddos I work with now are much more likely to eat all of their broccoli if I put it on their plates before other foods, like pasta are ready. Novelty works wonders when your child is unhappy, whether you’re in a stroller in a store, a grocery cart or a high chair at a restaurant. I’m hoping that this is just a short phase that will be over by the time you get to answer this, but I would love to hear your thoughts. I would recommend a youth chair….we use one that my dad made, but they have some at IKEA now too. Our highchair has gone into temporary storage in the basement. She sat better in the Keekaroo vs her new oxo booster due to the foot rest, now she’s very wiggley. Bridget, Hi there, My daughter (now 27 months) has been like this as well and was something like how you describe your son when she was 18 mos old. been there. We kept the food to one area and fed really messy stuff only at the table. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah. This phase drove my husband a little nuts because he came from a big family that ate at 6 pm sharp every day. Up until now, she has always been a great eater and easily transitioned from purees to finger foods, preferring the control she has with them. But yeah, try the IKEA chairs. It might diffuse the issue to feed her extra food at snacks and other times for a few days so if she doesn't eat much dinner it does not matter. Nope. She loves Dora so much that she can't wait to sit down and eat on Dora. I like Amy’s advice, but I’m a little more harcore. Re: Toddler won't eat or sit in highchair by DandelionFrosting » 10 Nov 2013, 23:59 It might not be applicable, but Saurus is about the same age, and I've found that he will happily sit in his high chair, but only if I let him climb up into it by himself. It’s your choice and that’s ok. You can find used ones at Darla's on San Pablo in El Cerrito or in the secondhand section of Baby World in Oakland. 1. He loves his new booster seat so much! She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. I also second the posters who have suggested getting your child involved in meal prep. So hang in there, these little guys won't let themselves starve as long as quality food is offered. My oldest kid was content to sit in his booster seat at the table instead. I don't think a 15 month old would remember why they are not getting food for very long, and then you have an even crankier child. Don’t make it a habit to feed your child anywhere else, in case he hates his high chair. Bento forks helped initially but he no longer needs the enticement. He tested his control and I brought him to the room and closed the door for two and a half minutes. Sitting on our laps is fine, if that works. He won't starve to death, and if he says later that he is hungry, remind him that mealtime is for eating and next time he can stay longer at the table and eat more. If this doesn't work, talk to the pediatrician. Her weight has always been below the bottom of the chart (literally less than 1 percentile!) If you think that may be the case, a suggestion would be reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. She did not like being strapped into the booster or anything else. I just kept reminding him it was an age thing and it got much better eventually. My 2.5 year old will not sit still for dinner--if it's in her highchair she climbs up and sits on the edge, and then stands up so we have to get her down or fear she'll fall; if it's the dining room table, she stands up on the chair, or gets down, if it's in one of our laps, that lasts for a bite. Get prepped for your tot's move to the dinner table with these feeding seat options. Both of my kids have gone through this phase. It may engage him long enough for you to finish your errand. How about a different kind of chair? The tray of this high chair is easy to remove with one hand, which Pampers Parents loved, and its insert is dishwasher-safe. © 2016 Alpha Mom. We just transitioned our 4 year old out of it so we can hide a bit so it won’t be “hers” when the baby is ready for it. -Be mindful of juice and other liquids. Good luck! It’s another mealtime battle to fight, but it’s a more worthy one than trying to cram a stiff-as-a-board screaming child into a high chair she’s probably close to outgrowing anyway. Our table is right next to theirs so we still enjoy meals together. I wish I could tell you that he sits politely and eats with us at every meal but instead we've all made some compromises and as he matures he wants to emulate our behavior more than fight us-- and he's at a healthy weight so it could be worse. She will, however, have a bite of food, run down the hall, run back and have more food. OK, I am officially shocked. 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